My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

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First time I’ve ever heard the advice, “be more like Pippin.”

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LotR was meant as an analogy for what it was like to go through war and come home, so this metaphor was absolutely intentional on the author’s part.

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iguanamouth:

tdrloid:

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iguanamouth:

youre gonna look so goddamn cool

Comic by iguanamouth

im actually crying

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please be as weird as me please be as weird as me please be as weird as me — me every time I meet someone (via miel-lapin)

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knitmeapony:

Sort of Incorrect Les Miserables Lyrics — You’re the One That I Want

No, that looks right to me.

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iguanamouth:

UNUSUAL HOARD commission for madeleine, look at the mess theyre making

iguanamouth:

UNUSUAL HOARD commission for madeleine, look at the mess theyre making

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jonkakes:

ericscissorhands:

"Some women are lost in the fire. Some women are built from it."

There’re a lot of favourite characters rolling through these gifs

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king-of-rogues:

You know the splatoon art I drew a week or so ago
SOMEONE ANIMATED IT, AND ITS GREAT
I LOVE YOU… WHOEVER YOU ARE ;A;

king-of-rogues:

You know the splatoon art I drew a week or so ago

SOMEONE ANIMATED IT, AND ITS GREAT

I LOVE YOU… WHOEVER YOU ARE ;A;

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You may think it’s unfair that we have to counteract and adjust ourselves for the ill behavior of other men. You know what? You’re right. It is unfair. Is that the fault of women? Or is it the fault of the men who act abysmally and make the rest of us look bad? If issues of fairness bother you, get mad at the men who make you and your actions appear questionable.

Because when it comes to assessing a man, whatever one man is capable of, a woman must presume you are capable of. Unfortunately, that means all men must be judged by our worst example. If you think that sort of stereotyping is bullshit, how do you treat a snake you come across in the wild?

…You treat it like a snake, right? Well, that’s not stereotyping, that’s acknowledging an animal for what it’s capable of doing and the harm it can inflict. Simple rules of the jungle, man. Since you are a man, women must treat you as such.

The completely reasonable and understandable fear of men is your responsibility. You didn’t create it. But you also didn’t build the freeways either. Some of the things you inherit from society are cool and some of them are rape culture.

A Gentlemen’s Guide To Rape Culture

This whole article should be required reading for every man, complete with actual tips on what men can do to combat rape culture. 

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